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THE MEDIA QUESTION; IT IS YOUR CHOICE?

Last post 05-29-2008 1:56 by GeorgesMum. 1 replies.
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  • 05-29-2008 0:19

    THE MEDIA QUESTION; IT IS YOUR CHOICE?

    The belief that going public to the media will enable us to vent our frustration, disbelief and anger at the closing of the Dore treatment centres posed a question, for me, which I had to consider seriously and logically. Would everybody get satisfaction and a feeling of relief from having the whole saga plastered across the front page news?

    There are two angles the media could run their stories and as we know their main aim is to sell papers so the demise of Dore and how staff, clients and children have been left in the lurch, would probably make for a good news story. Is that the angle we want, when we as parents are forced to look for outside help for our children’s learning difficulties?Did anyone want this to happen least of all Wynford it was his business and his dream, his staff who worked tirelessly because they had a belief in the treatment and a love for their clients and what they were doing, the parents and the children who all saw it as the answer to their prayers and had faith in the treatment. Whatever the reasons were for the crisis we now find ourselves in, it caused a demise of the clinics which gave 1000's of children and adults a normal life and hope for the future for millions of others who are struggling with specific learning difficulties. For many of those who have gone through Dore will say it does work, so we have a company that does exactly what it says on the tin, treats children with specific learning difficulties and finally gives them the potential to go for whatever they want out of life.So who is going to champion the cause for those children in the future and start asking, if a treatment is offering an effective answer for a child’s learning difficulties but has to be paid for by desperate families to access that treatment, then who is loosing out and who is at fault.Myself like many others had to find their own help for their child’s difficulties because in our case we were told by the experts within the educational system locally that there was no help for our daughter Leila. These are the ones we are told we should always trust and rely on. So why was Dore able to treat Leila, where the conventional establishment had failed her? 

    Where do our loyalties lie in all of this, the conventional system which is over stretched and under funded or to Dore? Mine personally has to be with Dore for what they set out to do and achieved with Leila and now her brother Kieran. The company is not down and out; they have given us the means for our children to complete the treatment. Being practical and sensible about this, all alternative therapies for learning difficulties could well follow the same route as Dore, they all have to rely on the fees they get from clients or for some the meagre grants they are given for their research, is that what we want for the future of our children?

    So think hard about what the future could hold for many of the treatments like Dore who could go under and increase the chance of loosing the one hope many children would have of leading normal lives. Conventional treatments are not always the answer as my daughter Leila shows The media may sensationalise the demise of Dore, but once considered old news will soon be forgotten. Problem is there are the children coming up behind, who could have benefited but won't. When do we say enough is enough; we want action and a choice of free treatments which in many cases does work.Wynford’s dream was to see his programme used in schools from an early age, was that a businessman’s future plans or a vision by a man who saw ALL children being able to access free treatment for their specific learning difficulties, instead of only the lucky few. So what angle would you like the media to run their stories, the demise of a treatment that called itself a “miracle cure” or the demise of one of the revolutionary treatments which could have changed the way our children are able to learn today, I will leave the choice up to you?  Ellie XXX
    Ellie mum to Leila 2 years post Dore who is now finally able to learn on a par with her peers at school and Kieran aged 7 commenced Dore 7th January 2008
  • 05-29-2008 1:56 In reply to

    Re: THE MEDIA QUESTION; IT IS YOUR CHOICE?

    That's a profound statement, which includes many things that come from my own heart. I would not, not for one minute, want to see the Dore organisation hung out to dry. We have not had the benefit, as you have, of seeing the complete programme. We are still quite new to it, but we have found that the Dore programme has given us a resource that we have been unable to find through conventional medicine. I realise that a lot of parents have enrolled their child in this programme for different reasons, and can only comment on my own experience. I cannot emphasis how much difference this programme has made to our family life, and would not want to, in any way, see the benefits outweighed by the current difficulties we face with the collapse of Dore UK.

    I made a post on my blog, last week, that if the NHS would only get behind the Dore programme, these benefits could be accessed by many, many families. This is a section of it:

    We discussed the cost involved. I'm not a Rocket Scientist, but even I can see that Dore could actually save the NHS money, if only they would get behind it. I have no idea how much Ritalin costs, but 18000mg per year for five years must cost more than a few pence..... add to that the cost of the resources - psychiatrists, support staff, ADHD nurses etc., and the five years that George has spent within the system must have cost more than £2500. Had we not discovered Dore, George would be faced with at least two visits per year for .... I don't know how many more years. Again a cost factor when comparing traditional ADHD management with The Dore Programme.

    This would have a knock on effect. There are families, to whom the Dore programme would not benefit. These families are at the mercy of an overstretched NHS system who cannot cope with the amount of children displaying learning (or behavioural) difficulties. The current waiting period for initial assessment, in our area, is two years. Two years is too long in a childs life, to wait for assessment and treatment. If some of the children were helped, through the Dore programme, this would inevitably take the pressure off the NHS and enable them to concentrate on areas where there is no other option. It's a win-win situation.

    The thought of losing this resource fills me with dread. The emotional "me" wants to rant at the current hurdles we face, but the practical "me" sees the benefits and the need to support the Dore organisation so that we are able to continue along this life changing path.

    I am grieving for the possible loss of what might have been, not just for my child, but for all the other children who so desperately need this.

    As we all know, the media look for stories that sell papers and generally it's bad news that sells. We are English and the majority of us read "bad news" and shake our heads. Do we want to read good news? Yes... some of us like that... we like to be able to see triumph over adversity, but there has been so much made of "poor parenting", "learning difficulties", and "behaviour disorders" that it's almost like an every day occurrence which we expect and accept as normal in our society where there's an excuse for everything and responsibility for nothing.....

    If it were me... excluding the financial logistics of it all, I would be saying something along the lines of:

    These children, X, Y and Z, could expect no more from the "system" and Dore gave them something they couldn't get anywhere else.

    Whilst I have my own fears and frustrations at recent developments, I cannot, not for one minute, regret enrolling my child in this programme. The media should, in my opinion, concentrate on the amazing results experienced by many, rather than the collapse (financially) of the organisation.

     

    Just my twopence worth.... 

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