Dore Talk

This is nothing really to do with dore i just need to get my frustaions of my chest. My son suffers with adhd. He has been doing dore for 10 months and is making slow and varied progress. We can see changes in him but school seem to pick up fault with everything. Has anyone else had this problem? His teacher can not understand why even though she is talking to the whole class about something Matthew got into trouble for the day before not naming him or blaming him but he still takes it personally. she also complained about the way he ate his food today. I do get frustated.

sorry about the moan

Kathryn

Hi KDavis I take it this was relayed to you by your son, it does seem as though he is feeling sensitive to how his teacher is talking and treating him at the moment.

It may be worth having a word with his teacher to find out what she had actually said and it will give you the opportunity to ask her to be a bit more sensitive to how she talks to him to make sure he has understood and also how much he is upset by it all.

I always remember Leila was highly sensitive to how people talked to her while she was doing Dore, part of the problem is their ability to understand and comprehend what people are actually saying to them. They can see it as a criticism or being told off when in fact it was just a comment.

Leila's elder brother was the opposite he was unable to realise when he was being told off and many a time it got him in to trouble for one thing or another. The classic one was being told off by the head master along with 2 other children for bullying. Turned out he was not involved with the bullying but when I asked him why he had not told me about it his answer was " I did not do it, so the telling off did not involve me". 

 I must admit my immediate thought was he has either very thick skinned or he was unable to really comprehend fully what the headmaster was actually saying to him, the latter was the more accurate explanation. Ellie XXX

Very interesting Ellie, as Harry is ultra-sensitive. Some nights he's practically in tears relaying a story of something that happened at school.  Recently, I've seen such a caring side to him too - offering his sister cash coz she's spent all hers as usual or something similar. He is very aware of other people's feelings.