Dore Talk

hi my names Jackie and my son jack is 8 years old he's been on Doré for a long year now ,

he's just started mental tasks and he's struggling abut i must say.  its really hard trying to keep him motivated most of the time its hard to get him to do the exercises let alone do them properly , dads at work early morning and in late at night so its down to me to make jack do them ( poor jack ) anyway Ive had a moan thanks for listening

Hi I have a 7.5 year old and we have been doing the Dore program since October and we have not seen one tiny bit of improvement in our son, in fact we are thinking it has gone worse since he came off the Fish Oils to do Dore.  I am feeling very disheartened.  I have been called in to school yet again to day for behaviour issues, mainly fidgeting and shouting out in class amongst a few other things.. we are hauled in week after week.. I was expecting some improvement by now but we have none.. We have a son who's self esteem is in tatters and mine is not much better.. I am worn out and exhausted with all the problems with school and I feel like a terrible mother as I have been on and on at my son for his behaviour and now he dislikes himself very much, but is not able to change it seems.

 In the year you have been doing this, have you seen any improvement at all?  What are mental tasks?  Is your son on Dore for ADHD or Dyslexia or Dyspraxia?

 My husband was very skeptical about Dore and I was so for it but I am beginning to feel that we are wasting our time and we are going to be left as we were before.. I don't know where else to turn.. I live in hope that someone can offer me some glimmer of hope or assurance that they felt like me and it still worked in the end???????????

 Thanks,

Two mothers at each end of the spectrum Jackie your son has commenced mentals and is struggling mainly because our children are unable to multi task. He will find them difficult at first because he has not developed the ability to think of more than one thing at a time. I.E If he was writing information from a board and the teacher is giving him instructions at the same time he cannot comprehend both so either he does not get down what is written on the board or he will not take in what the teacher is saying.

The mentals finally enable them to do both but it does take time, the best way I found with Leila at first was to make the information she had to think about simple. Days of the week, 2 times tables, her friends at school, members of the family. Easy answers for them usually but really difficult when you are doing the exercises at the same time. As he develops it will become so much easier for him and by the end he will be doing them like a pro.

He is at the end phase of the treatment now Jackie where all his difficulties are finally being sorted and all that he has gained so far is brought together permanently.

Dansmum I can understand your frustration with the lack of progress in your son, Leila had global learning difficulties along with autistic traites and when I enrolled her on Dore I had no way of really knowing if they could help her. I have written to you on another thread but it was 7 months before I saw any changes and they were small. The early days I just went with the flow not expecting any miracles but any little change in her abilities were a godsend.

The fact you are seeing an increase in his behaviour could be a sign of a progression phase where they seem to be getting worse, but in fact is heralding a change in one area of their difficulties. Keep an eye out for any subtle changes it may not be to do with his behaviour it could be in another area of his difficulties. Many children still take fish oils in a low dose while they are doing Dore if they are more controllable on them than off. Have a word with your Dore center about it. Keep posting here on the forum Dansmum and we will guide you through the process. It is knowing what to expect and what is happening at times like this that will help to see you all through.

By the end of your sons treatment you too will know all the changes and trying times of doing Dore, but will know they are all necessary for our childrens future. You will then be able to impart that information onto others who will also feel the same way you do now. Ellie XXX

My son Thomas has just finished the program, he was on it for over two years. Before he began the dore program, he was a very angry little boy. He would pysically hit me, his Dad, and his brother. After about two months of being on the program, his temper calmed. Now two years on, he ozzes confidence( he even sang a solo in a school concert, which would have been unheard of two years ago, as he lacked so much confidence), is really happy at school( he still struggles with maths, but i think he always will), he is a lovely caring 10 year old, that can talk for England! Try to perservere with the program, we had days when Thomas wouldn't do his exersises, really dug his heels in(espiecaly if the exersises were to hard for him), it really does help. I truly believe that we'd have a totally diferent boy at home now, if it was'nt for the Dore. We are still seeing improvments now, it's slowed down abit, he still can't ride a bike, but keeps trying(lots of grazed knees). Keep your chin up!!!                                 Catherine Marshallxxxx

At least he is trying Catherine to ride a bike, Leila was over 10 and doing Dore before she could ride one, now she has no difficulties. Thomas will continue to improve even after Dore, I always say making up the lost time they had missed in their learning prior to Dore, but the difference is they are now firing on all cylinders without the difficulties and it will not take them half as long to get there. Ellie XXX

Hi Catherine thank you for your words of encouragement , it helpful somehow to here of families that have, or are going through the same-thing  I'm genuinely pleased Thomas is doing so well  keep in touch  Jackie

Thanks Jackie for your kind words. I think Thomas just can't be bothered with his bike, it's too much like hard work!!! Still theres worst things in the world!! I hope your sons getting on ok, I know some days the exersises are a real chore, but it does get easier PROMISE!!!!           Catherinexxx

hi dansmum just reading through old messages and wondered how you were getting on, what with everything that has happened , its good news isnt it now people are starting to get appointments xx jackie